Our little family went to the mountains on Friday and Saturday. Before blogging about that adventure, I just wanted to share one story from the trip first.
Before going to the mountains, I had researched kid friendly places in the NC mountains for hours and hours so that we wouldn't find ourselves stuck in situations that the kids couldn't handle (i.e. tough trails) When we got up to the Blue Ridge Parkway we first decided to visit a place called Crabtree Falls. It is a 2.5 mile hike roundtrip to see a 100 foot waterfall. It was the longest hike on my list of things to do so we decided to do it first because if we had to carry the kids the entire way then we would have enough energy to do it in the begining of our trip. Besides, we were pretty sure they'd be eager to stretch their little legs after being in the car for a few hours.
Online, the trail was listed as "moderate." At the site itself, it was listed as "strenuous."
Ben and I looked a the begining of the trail and chuckled to ourselves that it was listed as strenuous. It was a nice, wide, dirt path that barely declined. We decided to go anyway. After maybe a quarter of a mile into the hike, the trail turned into this. Just check out Lily's leg on the right side of the picture to get an idea of the size of the rocks.
Not long after that the trail turned into this:
A convenient flat and un-rocky path was formed on the very edge of the path.
As I was hiking this, I couldn't help but see the symbolism in our path.
Ben carried Skyler the entire way, so I stuck with Lily (aka Miss "I do it myself"). Once I saw how steep and dangerous this trail became every motherly instinct I had started beeping robotic warnings at me and I just wanted to carry Lily myself. But having her own 3 year-old persepective, Lily wouldn't let me. She thought she could handle the foot wide stairs that ran down the side of the mountain and climb over these mini boulders than got bigger and bigger the closer we got to the waterfall.
But eventually she tripped. Landing on the rocks kind of shook her up a little bit. She held my hand after that.
But then she got used to walking over the rocks again and she let go of my hand. "Do you want to hold my hand, Lily?" I encouraged, stretching out my hand (which I did the entire trail, just in case). "Nope. I can do it." So we continued to slowly make our way toward the waterfall.
But then she tripped again. She held onto me firmly, which I was more than OK with.
But then we got to the part that had the thin and easy path on the edge of the trail. Lily immediately recognized its convenience and opted to take that route. The robotic warnings started flaring up in me again. There were three options Lily could have chosen:
- Walk on easy path and risk falling down hundreds of feet down the side of the mountain.
- Walk on the difficult rocky road and risk tripping.
- Walk on the difficult rocky road and hold my hand.
Being more experienced, I could see all the harm around her, even when she couldn't see it, or chose not to see it. I did every thing I could think of to encourage her to take my hand and walk on the rocks (because I knew she could handle it) but taking the easy path was too tempting and I agonized pretty much every footstep she took on that path.
And then she tripped again. She fell slightly off the trail, down toward the mountain, and she realized what danger she was in and the risk she was taking choosing the easy way. I was able to encourage her to take the rocky path after that and she did hold my hand for a good portion of the rest of the trail. And when the trail would get slightly easier, she'd let go of my hand, but sometimes she just brush her hand against mine to make sure that it was still there, just in case.
Sometimes I know that I choose the easy trail, too, even though I'm old enough to see that there is a better -- and typically tougher -- trail that I could be taking. But I know that when I do decide to take the rocky trail, that there will always be a hand to hold me up and guide me to the place I want to go.
When we finally got to the waterfall, I asked Lily, "Was climbing over all those rocks worth it to see this?" She nodded her head and said, "It's so beautiful!"